For Light-Skinned Girls

My focus seems to be more on dark-skinned girls and how colorism affects them, but I would love your input as well. Don’t you hate it when guys say, “I don’t like black girls. Only light-skinned black girls.” Doesn’t that sound infuriatingly contradictory? I don’t take it as a compliment for someone to say they don’t like black girls, but I’m their exception, because they still think my race is inferior. It’s like they are separating light-skinned black girls from the “other” black girls. I’ve heard people say “Light-skinned girls get their own race!” I just hate it when people try to discount light-skinned girls as black because they happen to like them or find them pretty. I’m not crazy about preference when it comes to skin color, but if you like a light-skinned girl who comes from black parents, she’s black. You can’t just strip her of her racial identity to please you. Apparently any black girl who is pretty isn’t black. “I don’t like black girls, but you’re light-skinned and pretty, so you don’t count.” Or, “You’re pretty for a dark-skinned girl! You must have something in you?” In my opinion, anyone who has been told or implied that should be offended. It is denoting your identity to fit their perverse standards. “I don’t usually like black girls, but you’re an exception.” All I get is, “You’re not really black to me, and I refuse to see you as black, because I like you.” Light-skinned people do have more privileges over dark-skinned people, but I do find it offensive when people say, “Light-skinned girls are stupid hos.” It’s not even the stuck up stereotype that gets me, it’s this idea that light-skinned girls can’t have empathy for the black struggle and are only there to be in the image of “the white man” where black men can approve of. As if magically, light-skinned girls don’t hurt from racism even if colorism grants them benefits. And yes, there are light-skinned people who have to “prove” their blackness, which I feel they don’t have to. There’s a difference between “proving” something you are born with and acknowledging your privilege. I feel that light-skinned girls who love who they are as black women should not be minimized by racists who refuse to see them as black women. It’s an insult to the ones who love their identity and love being black, but have to deal with people telling them they’re “white” or “not really black” because they have a problem with the fact that they like a black girl who “satisfies” their Eurocentric ideologies.