lazy-artistgal-deactivated20140 asked: I see on this blog that preference is bad? I hope I don't come off as bad for this, but I am a woc and prefer other races than black men. Growing up my mother always told me and my siblings how black men are most likely to cheat, go to jail, have baby mamas, and lazy. I used to go to an all black school were the boys were horrid to their girlfriend and threaten them. I know not all black men are like this, but I just can't shake off the things my mother who is a woc say and the things I've seen.
Yeah everything you’ve just said is disgustingly anti-black. Like what you just wrote not only holds absolutely no basis but is some of the most disgustingly racist anti-black racist bullcrap I’ve ever read. I am disgusted, and if I’m honest based on what you just wrote black men don’t need someone as gross and anti-black in their life as you.
So this Ask came to whitepeoplesaidwhat’s Box and clearly you can see the vile and disgusting anti-Blackness here by this coward who apparently has now deleted their profile. I won’t even address this bullshit in the Ask because it reads like the average White racist website, except non-Black people of colour regularly engage in anti-Blackness because of their positions in White supremacy and proximity to Whiteness over Black people.
What I am going to address is the disgusting filth co-sign to the anti-Blackness above by some damn near libelous person supermariochick64 who added this upon reblog, invoking my name:
"She just grew up with an ideology. And our environments and social interactions does shape who we’re attracted to and unattracted to. I have a cousin who states that he isn’t attracted to black women because of AB and C experiences. As a WoC myself I’m not attracted to black men, but I still love them. I have good friendships with a few and obviously all my male relatives on my mother side of the family are black, and they mean the world to me. Honestly I think my reason is the same. More or less from observing the black men I was surrounded with or saw on those horrid reality tv shows and in the general public; for those whom I had constant interactions with (school, family, etc) I saw patterned qualities that repelled me and still does.. But then again she has the right to be attracted to anyone she likes. If she has a preference she can have it. You can’t police black women bodies. If you read gradient lair’s blog she speaks of black men and criticize them. Not to say other races are saintly, they’ve done some pretty nasty shit too when it comes to black women. But see growing up all the white/hispanic/asian guys were super nice to me and the blacks would call me all sorts of bitches and then fat or lame. So that shifted my attractions.”
First of all, who the FUCK are you as a non-Black woman or mixed WoC to use my deconstruction of Black intraracial oppression as an excuse to justify non-Black women’s anti-Blackness? This is like White racists suggesting that White men have the right to murder Black people because intraracial crime also exists. Keep your anti-Black crap away from my space, keep my name out of your mouth, learn reading comprehension. Seriously. Don’t you dare use my work to justify your unexamined hatred, rationalizations, stereotypes and misinformation.
Secondly, attraction does not exist solely based on interpersonal social interactions. It is also based on norms and values that do not exist arbitrarily or in a vacuum but in the context of a White supremacist society where the very notions of “goodness” and “beauty” themselves are constructed AGAINST Blackness. So your assertion that reads like "some of my best relatives are Black!" to justify this anti-Blackness is also FUCKSHIT. Do you hear me? SHIT.
Third, how dare you pull the "if you critique my anti-Blackness as a woman, then you’re a misogynist" card that so many White feminists do? No “body policing” exists here. The only thing here is anti-Blackness and justifications for it. Preferences for men based solely on anti-Blackness and not a critique of patriarchy, sexism, misogyny—what all men benefit from and are capable of engaging in—is not “body positivity” or “sex positivity.” It is solely anti-Blackness and using gender as a shield. No one is telling anyone who to date or what to do with their bodies. However, the justifications provided for why Black men are degraded and not other men are open for interrogation and comment. That does not mean someone is telling you who to be with. This purposeful misconstruction is anti-Blackness via derailment.
Don’t you dare think that this crap you spout is what my work is about. When I talk about Black intraracial community issues of oppression, about how Black men leverage male privilege intraracially because we live in a patriarchal society where White supremacy creates such a narrow space for their masculinity, and how internalized anti-Blackness contributes to misogynoir, that is deconstructing oppression, not “criticizing” them via the the bare bones insults of the original poster or your putrid defense. The defense is almost worst than the original comment since the rationalizations appear to be ones you think you have interrogated when it is bare bones anti-Blackness.
In other words, you clearly are being willfully ignorant, want to support a bigoted coward in the original Ask, and do not understand intersectionality nor anything that I write and wanted to throw out my name (for whatever fucking reason…I don’t know) to justify the crap. Please keep my name out of your mouth until you are at the level where you are wiling to interrogate the filth that you think you are going to use our Black intraracial conversations, experiences and oppressions to justify.
NOT a single post on my blog has EVER posited ANY men as better than Black men. And interrogating how Black men are BOTH oppressed AND oppressors is NOT the same as “white/hispanic/asian guys were super nice to me” so keep that fucking bullshit out of my goddamn life! Where did I suggest such shit? Is it in my “sublime men" blog tag about epic Black men or is it where I recommended the best Black male writers and tweeters for Black women to follow or included Black men in my top Twitter/Tumblr list for 2013? Fuck outta here…
I will defend Blackness vigorously and interrogate any and all oppression. And don’t you dare use my work to justify your facile fuckshit. How dare you? Stay away from my space. I consider you a threat to me, to my health and to Black people in general.
(And thanks for the rebuttal in support of me whitepeoplesaidwhat. I cannot believe this vile snake would mix my work up into their putrid hatred and ignorance.)
And for any asshole now interested in playing "non-Black WoC > BW, so must side with the bigot and slander Trudy" or "I never liked Gradient Lair anyway!" for attention, fuck off. FUCK OFF. My name being used to justify this anti-Blackness is a direct THREAT to me and my health and my people. So spare me. Take the impending tone policing and shove it up your ass. I said I’m a womanist. Not a doormat. Not a mammy. Not a punching bag. Not a silent accepter of abuse. And for concern trolls who will say "have you tried ignoring anti-Blackness?" fuck off too. You have NO CLUE how much I have to ignore and dodge just to exist online (and offline; shit) and how rarely I address things in comparison to the threshold that I receive.
hey man im just a white girl but honestly i think youre flipping a huge shit on someone who politely voiced an opinion that offended you, jeez, you have the right to feel offended but this person clearly means no harm and looks like shes open to the discussion of whether or not preference is moral. again some idiot on tumblr had to have a tantrum and youve probably turned this person off from considering your opinion even more. asshole.
Reasons.. Why I don’t fuck with that many non-black folks… Y’all be JUST AS ANTI-BLACK…
Trudy went the fuck IN!! And this exactly why white people and non-black folks needs to STFU when it comes to anti-blackness.