I’m getting to the point where I am telling problematic and upsetting people I don’t want them in my lives. I don’t want to be associated with racists, colorists, homophobic/queerphobic, transphobic, ableist, or misogynistic people. They are an embarrassment to me and not only do they offend me, they offend a whole grouo of people they choose to marginalize. I don’t want them as friends.
Anonymous said: You're a very pathetic cunt who needs to die.
"Why would you want to be considered delicate and fragile anyway? What women wants to be weak?"
I don’t want to be weak all of the time. I don’t want people to believe I’m weak because I’m a woman. I don’t want to be reverred as delicate who can never take care of herself. I hate being infantilized. However, I want to be considered delicate and fragile at times because I am a sensitive person overall. A lot of times, I am unable to support myself and stay strong for too long. I can easily cry over the little things. So when I am unable to be bring myself to strength, I want a person to hold me in their arms, comfort me, and even “coddle” me because I am weak at the moment. I need another person to support me, and as a black woman, women like me have never received that. They have not been told they were simply pretty, precious, and worthy of protection. Sure, every human can fit that description, but every human does not. Just white women. I’ve never heard black girls be referred to as “delicate” and “precious,” and that’s not a good thing at all. It’s okay to be weak and rely on others to support you. It’s okay to not be strong all the time. It’s okay to be a black female who isn’t always strong that needs a man or a woman.
"How come it’s okay for you to say the N word, make fun of white and light skinned people, but if we did the same thing, we’d be racist/colorist?"
Why is it not okay for you to be a racist or colorist? Why can’t you say the N word or make fun of black people? Why can’t you say shit about dark-skinned girls? Don’t you think you’ve had enough privileges throughout history to be able to do that? Why do you feel it is your right to be racist or colorist just because an oppressed group made a flippant comment about you? You’re basically saying it isn’t fair others can be racist and bigoted, but you can’t. Who even thinks like that logically? NO black person has ever thought, “Gee, how come whites can racially discriminate against us, but we can’t do the same to them?” We were too busy wanting humanity and equality, which we were never given. I don’t know anyone who is truly marginalized that would think, “Well, shit, I should be a horrible human being too.” If it has to come down to erasing morality in order to defend yourself in a life or death situation, then many of us had to do just that.
”If someone said something about black or dark-skinned women, you’d be upset.” You already do, and your argument is invalid. On youtube video, a black man got angry because a black woman simply said light-skinned/mixed women weren’t all that. Presumably as a response to the plethora of comments praising women. The man automatically boiled it down to it being dark-skinned women who were the issue, not colorism, not light-skinned women who are their oppressors, not black men and general, not white people. Colorism is constructed by dark-skinned black women one day waking up and saying they hated themselves. It amazes me how light-skinned black women are the one being “put down” by being truthfully told they really ain’t shit (not at all) and no better than the rest by other black women. If you cannot handle reality, don’t even bother arguing with it, ignorance. Then said if light-skinned would put down dark-skinned wome, we’d be angry. He clearly knew where to hit a “bitter dark” woman by calling her ugly and insecure, but certainly he didn’t know colorism or light-skinned beauty standards. But he knew to use anti-black colorist sentiments against black women. I call bullshit.
And people wonder why I or others don’t go by, “All people are beautiful,” “All women are beautiful,” or “All black women are beautiful.” Because “All” in the context utilized by people to combat anti-black or racialized beauty standards is meant to try and include those wo are told they are beautiful regardless. All women aren’t beautiful because whiteomen are told they are beautiful no matter what. All people aren’t worthy because white people and men are told they’re human regardless. All black women are’t beautiful because light-skinned and visibly mixed race women are told they’re beautiful in spite of being black or of African descent. You need to be specific when discussing who needs to be uplifted and who needs pride. Everyone does not need to be uplifted, just those who are oppressed and marginalized. It isn’t so much that we intend to exclude certain persons from spaces, i’s just that they don’t need them. Uplift is to bring those who are down up, not those who are up higher.
And I have no mercy for antagonistic people like that. If anyone thinks for one second that I should have a filter when my experiences has taught me not to trust that every black person who is light skinned or mixed will respond to my analyzing the privileges they may have within the black community with as much cooperation as the few I do know, you’re wrong. I’ve tried reasoning, explaining, and enpathizing, but almost every person has taken advantage of that and used my mercy as fuel for abuse. I fool myself when I believe half of the people on here will turn out to be like the friends or loved ones I know in real life who would never screame at me about dealing with the same pain as I do, because they know that would be a lie. If people want to ignore colorism and anti blackness among mixed race poc and black persons, expect to not be responded to kindly.