Anonymous said: It's sad that when I go out with my girls and we laugh and have a good time people always act like we stereotypes. We're just trying to be joyful despite our burdens and it's ruined when people give us the "typical blck women " look.

You are women, black at that, having fun. To white people, “No smiling and laughing as niggers!” 

Anonymous said: I'm trying to explain to my white friend why calling her and other white peoples natural hair a "weave" is offending me but I'm not sure how to explain it? do you have anything written on this or any comments on white people using the term in general? it bothers me cause it makes it seem like my weave is me trying to strive to be more like them when it's Not i just like it. idk. thank you ahead of time

It’s condescending when white people utilize hair extensions as “weave” because we all know weave refers to hair products and extensions most black women use. It’s called a weave because you literally weave the extensions into your hair, and that’s the method most black women wanting extensions use. You’re not trying to be like them by wanting to have a different and alternative look and hairstyle. It’s not inherently white-centric to want longer hair or color in your hair from time to time. It’s a problem when you put those factors as the pinnacle of beauty for black women. White people get weaves too, but most call them extensions because a lot of them do not weave the hair in.


So now that many black women are reclaiming the slur “thot,” black people are mad because we’re not supposed to be “proud” of being “thots.” We should be ashamed and made to feel guilty for anything that expresses sexuality or our individuality as black women as well as common interests. “I hate women who admit to being hoes/thots and are proud of it.” You mean you hate that you can call someone a degrading slur, but it has no affect on said target because they have reclaimed it? Basically stifling their control over something that is intended to hurt them. People sound like Nurse Ratchet asking Billy Bibbit was he ashamed because he was proud of embracing who he is after sexual repression. 

Anonymous said: My friends dad works with american apparel and one day she told me while her father and businesses partners/friends came over for dinner they were poking fun about the paper bag test and how they use it with picking in his words the "nigger" models.

This is disturbing and distressing to hear. 


It’s funny when obviously anti-black people who are like 1/8 or 1/16th black try to say, “You can’t break black people into fractions” when black people question their intent on inserting themselves into black issues to harass and talk over those who are visibly and coded black as well as talking…

Anonymous said: I need some advice. I am a light skinned black girl and I go to a predominately black school and I get bullied for my light skin everyday. I get called ugly white girl and I get beaten up etc. I wished that I was darker so that I could fit in and I have cried many times but I feel so guilty for even feeling hurt or bad about it because I know the amount of privilege I have in society. How can I get rid of this guilt for feeling hurt about this when DS ppl have it so much harder than me?

You’re being bullied. You are a victim of bullying. But you don’t wish you were dark, you wish you weren’t as vulnerable to being attacked by darker skinned black kids who are more marginalized than you because of the color of their skin. You have every right to be hurt and feel bad about it. You are being abused and bullied even with the privilege you have. I don’t condone nor excuse bullying. You should be mindful of your privilege, but don’t think that is okay for abusive black people to take advantage of that and harm you in a way that is beyond “calling out” your privilege or putting it in place. 

Anonymous said: As a mixed girl myself, I can safely say that self-hating black guys who have a thing for mixed girls are super annoying. And even though I'm LIGHT SKINNED by colorism standards, I still get confused stares when I tell them I'm mixed. Because apparently my dark nappy hair, brown skin, dark eyes, big lips, and oblong face make me "too black" to be a member of their pretty mixed girl club. Their colorist asses can go fly a kite. (PS I love everything you're doing on this blog. :) )

I don’t like most mixed spaces because they’re not safe spaces for dark-skinned mixed race black people. Most of them are of light-skinned, white-passing, and curly-haired black people with ambiguous features. A twitter user got angry because a popular womanist user called her out for posting solely light-skinned girls on her black girl pride blog. Her defense was, “Why are you mad that I’m posting light-skinned girls! I post dark-skinned girls all the time! It’s just mixed girl Monday!” -___________________- So many wrongs with that remark. So she meant to tell that woman that because it was MixedGirlMonday, it was okay to post a slew of pictures of light-skinned girls with a looser hair textured. She made it worse by saying that. So no, as a black person, I don’t bother too much with “mixed beauty” blogs because by “mixed beauty,” they mean light-skinned, colored eyes, curly hair, and ambiguously non-black features. I would like them if they had dark-skinned black people like so many anti-black multiracial black people love to claim when they are called out for their colorism and phenotype bias.

Anonymous said: I looked up that movie school dance because I never heard of it before. Just from the trailer I could tell it was one of the most colorist movies I've ever seen. There were hardly any black girls let alone any darker than a paper bag and if they were dark they were used as comic relief. that trailer made me so angry ugh.

Yup, yup, yup. Glad I recommended a film for my followers to not see. =D

"Why would you want to do that white people shit! I don’t want to go to no haunted place like a stupid white person! You ain’t white!"

  It has nothing to do with being white. You’re just not fun and aren’t opened to new ideas outside your narrow zone.

Many black men do not think of abuse and violence as being inflicted upon black women. They just do not. That is why it is so hard for them to fathom why people won’t “forgive” Chris Brown or support him after what he did to Rihanna. They revert back to the old trope of black men being portrayed as violent and abusive, but not towards black women. They see it as black men being portrayed as harming white or non-black women. They worry about hurting non-black women because of anti-black stereotypes, not black women. They are anti-black misogynists. When black men hear, “Black men can be abusive and violent,” they don’t once stop to think people may mean, “Black men can be abusive, violent, and oppressive to black women in their homes.” Which is true. There are high intervals of black men abusing black women. Yet they pass the buck onto white men by saying they “get away” with beating white women while they can’t get away with beating up black women. You and violently misogynistic white men are both pieces of shit, they just get away with being assholes to women because they are white. Anti-black black people can stay begging me and other black women to “support” po’ and misunderstood high yella negro for beating a black woman out of “loyalty” to black men wronged by the system.